love me or let me go

You know that phrase, "if you love someone, you'll let him go" ?
Its complete and utter rubbish in my opinion.
If you love someone you won't stop trying. you'll never let go.
You'll watch and hurt as that person loves and is loved by others, but you'll never let go.
You'll keep clinging to the hope that the person might notice you and love you back with the intensity you loved him.
And if you let go, you never truly loved in the first place.
and that is my valentine's day insight.